There’s FOMO – the fear of missing out – and then there’s this.
The Actually Missing Out I experience due to chronic pain.
Most days I’m fine, I’ve accepted I have to spend more time at home and live at a slower pace than most people.
And then there’s today, where I woke up in so much pain I had to cancel my plans of meeting up with some friends I haven’t seen in a long time.
Being in extra pain is frustrating enough, but it’s twice as tough on days like this – where I’m actually missing out on something I had looked forward to. The loneliness of chronic illness feels extra intense.
I’ll be okay, but right now I’ll allow myself to feel whatever I feel.
I don’t know what’s the point of writing this. My brain is muddy from pain but I hope it’s making sense anyway.
I guess I could say this: if you have a friend with a chronic illness, keep inviting them.
Even if you think they won’t be able to go.
Even if they seem ‘flaky’ because they cancel so often.
Even if they cancel at the last minute again.
Even if they seem unreliable (the reality is that chronic illness can be unpredictable).
I know it sucks, but it sucks even more to miss out again and deal with symptoms.
It means a lot to still be included ❤️