I just realised why I’ve been feeling so down lately: it’s because I’m not a superhero. Or to be more exact there are so many things I really want to do and I just can’t do it all, especially not at once.
- I have dreams and goals to achieve.
- I have family and friends I want to spend time with.
- I wanna do good in school.
- I want to workout and make my body strong and injury-free again.
- I wanna create things for my blog.
- I wanna be a good girlfriend.
And I don’t really want to do good. I wanna do great. Strike that. Perfection is the only option.
But I can’t do it. Not all at once.
Not with a body and mind that’s kinda broken. Even with perfect health, it would still be a struggle.
If you’re anything like me, you’re trying to do the impossible and failing (of course), and it’s getting you down. Striving for perfection is demotivating – because, well, we’re never really gonna get there. You could always do a tiny bit more. If you think about it rationally, you know it probably won’t make a difference to anybody else. But the thought that you’re not doing your best continues to nag.
It’s so demotivating. And maybe it’s just me, but striving for perfection means I end up doing kinda shitty at everything. What’s the point of running the race when you’ve already lost?
There’s a fine line between striving for improvement and striving for perfection. One makes you better. The other paralyses you.
I’m writing this for myself as well as you who struggle with these issues. Who thinks you’re alone and romanticise other people, see them as superheroes. Who thinks you’re not good enough.
Here’s what I want to tell
There’s a time limit on every day. There’s a limit to what you can achieve in a day. It’s okay not to do your best every time. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay not to make progress every day. Some days you gotta just take care of yourself and your basic needs, nothing else. Allow yourself to breathe. Allow yourself to grow at whatever pace you do.
If I wanted to be super corny, now would be the time to paste in the following quote:
Strive for progress, not perfection
Good thing I didn’t huh? That would be way too much.
I feel a strong urge to end this on a positive note so THERE’S A SNOW PUPPY COMING TO HUG YOU